Parents, FORGET THAT YOUR CHILD IS DEAF! Sounds crazy right? Well let's think about it. Put things into perspective. When it really comes down to it, it's not that big of a deal. When we found out that our daughter was deaf it was devastating. Why? Because it was completely foreign. That's pretty scary! Immediately I jumped ahead 18 years and wondered will she ever go to the prom, will she ever get married! And then I thought, "ok wait a minute, she can't hear; that's it". That's really no big deal. She has things on her ears, and yes they look different and she sometimes gets stares, but that's how she hears. If I didn't put those little circular discs in my eyes or that funny thing that wraps around my ears and sits on my nose, then I wouldn't be able to see! So after we went through the grieving period all parents go through, we did just what I said; we forgot she was deaf (in a sense). We still go to AVT sessions and work with her EVERY DAY on speech and language and comprehension; she had almost 3 years of catching up to do, but we didn't treat her any differently than we would if she were normal hearing. Believe me, she was disciplined the way we planned and talked to the way we would normally and not given any special provisions other than what was needed for her at the time regarding her hearing.
I've read many blogs from parents who, for lack of a better term, "baby" their children because they assume too much. They assume that they must be afraid at night because it's dark and they can't hear so they let them in bed with them. What would they have done if their child could hear? They allow them to get away with things because they feel sorry for them. I sometimes still cry thinking about my childrens' lives and why them, but it doesn't mean I'm going to give them ice cream for breakfast or not make them take their vitamins!
In essence, what I'm saying is, be mindful of your actions with your child, know that what you do today will shape them into who they become. Realize that are perfect as they are. And have confidence that they will be ok. And when that is all said and done, maybe your child will surprise you like mine does when she is asked what those things are on her ears and says "they're my ears, it's how I hear, it's ok....do you want to play?".
That goes straight to the heart and helps me realize we're doing something right and she's as normal as they come!